Self-worth is not the same thing as self-esteem
Self-worth… self-esteem… Do they mean the same thing?
A lot of people think they do, which is why they use the two words interchangeably. These two words are very closely aligned that no one would know the difference.
However, after closer examination – and after much contemplation and direct experience – one will discover the key difference between self-esteem and self-worth.
Self-esteem is what you think, feel, and believe about yourself. Self-esteem is how you see yourself in this world, how you compare to others, and how you measure up to what you think a decent person should be.
Overall, self-esteem is how you feel about yourself in and out.
Self-worth, on the other hand, is to recognize that you are greater than your fears, your limitations, and the things that are supposed to weigh you down. It is a deep knowing – or realization – that you are of infinite value, that you are loved, that you are beautiful, that you deserve to live, that you can accomplish anything, etc.
Overall, self-worth is to value yourself more.
Self-esteem is more about doing. Self-worth is more about being.
Self-esteem refers to the appreciation that you have for your abilities. This boosts your confidence: you feel that you can do anything you set your mind to.
Self-worth refers to the value that you give to yourself. This is the ‘spiritual’ essence that makes you alive or that keeps you going in life – because you are searching for it.
It is possible to feel self-esteem or to think you are good at something, yet still not feel convinced that you can make a difference in everything you do. Self-esteem does not work without self-worth.
In this highly competitive times, strive for self-worth.
Build your self-worth
Whatever you do for a living or as a hobby, know that everyone else can, so why not differentiate yourself?
Stand apart from the rest by creating more value for yourself. Increase your value by seeing yourself as a ‘product’.
Know yourself on a deeper and more profound level. Measure your self-worth by imagining a scenario where everything you have is suddenly taken away from you – and all that is left is yourself.
How would that make you feel? What would you actually have that would be of value to you?
Who are you? What are you without your possession, money, career, accomplishments, and friends? How would others speak of you when everything you have is taken away from you?
Most importantly, how will you see yourself should this kind of thing happen?
As you imagine that scenario, you may already have a pretty clear picture of your current level of self-worth.
As you understand how you see yourself in the world around you, you realize there will be good things, bad things, and the things you might be ashamed to admit.
This calls for you to be real and authentic about yourself – and with yourself at all times.
Yes, you have made mistakes. You have done terrible things in the past. You have failed many times in your life. Yes, you are not perfect, but it’s you. It’s who you are.
Now is the time to forgive yourself for everything you have done in the past. Why not let go of everything that has been holding you back all these years?
Weep if you must, but resolve to accept yourself unconditionally in spite of your flaws. Embrace who you are and stop comparing yourself to other people.
Treat yourself now with kindness and compassion as you would treat a friend. Be compassionate with yourself.
To affirm your self-worth, speak to yourself in a positive and supportive way. You no longer need other people or even circumstances to define you. You are no longer a victim of circumstances and you no longer need to please people.
Recognize that you hold the power to respond to events and situations in your life.
Above all, you have the power to change and influence the circumstances of your life.
You now take full responsibility for your life. With the power you now have, are you going to complain, make excuses, and blame other people ever again? No.
As you now take charge of your own life, don’t ever doubt your worth.
Move forward to the future that awaits you.